When you think feminism hasn't changed much...look here

Observations of a Middle-Aged Dragon with a Tattoo:

When you think Feminism hasnt changed much

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I hope they made your blood boil.

Because remember it should be like this:

feminist.lisa you can follow on Instagram. Very insightful and simple.

While not perfect weve come a long way and still have a way to go

Keep paving the feminism path in your own unique style ladies

Dare you to….

The Truth on Mother's Day

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Welcome to Mothers Day

As I’ve said before: mostly when we celebrate these special “DAYs”, we should really think!! Let’s temper the great out-pouring of care, compassion and sentiments that happens for 1/365 days of the year with why we need just one day to ‘celebrate’ this when we should be much more thoughtful all 365 days for who’s ever day it is.

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Should the ‘day’ really be called the releasing of guilt day for all the rest of us for whoever this day is really for!! For example: 

‘Release the Guilt over not showing Mum enough love the rest of the year DAY’

Which would see Valentine's Day as the day ‘Release of the Guilt over not acknowledging my partner everyday DAY’

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AND DON’T GET ME STARTED ON… the people who think it shouldn’t be called Mother’s Day and should be Appreciation Day or some other shit like that. All because of the small percentage of people out of the 7.7 billion world’s population who may not have a mother in the traditional sense or whose mother is no longer with them. I think most people are mature enough to understand they celebrate it how they want and that there is no hard and fast rule to how or who you celebrate Mother’s with or for. To the rest GROW-UP and know that the day is what you make of it and who you are celebrating it for…and you have way too much time on your hands; probably not like most Mum’s who are…

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And become….

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SNAP OUT OF IT and do what you want and be happy with that for yourself and your family. Don't get worried about others.  

AND for the world’s SANITY please don’t think/believe that because you do what you see as how Mother’s Day should be...that it is what the REST of the 7.7 billion or so, should do. 

Let people BE what they want to be and do NOT how you believe the world should be. Be happy within yourself. Mother’s day is not a contest. Strip it back to the core... LOVE between you and your MUM or whomever you see as your Mum.

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Dare you to…

How sad does your life have to be?

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How SAD and pointless does your life have to be? That you’d take a shot at something so exquisite.

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As Tayla Harris said: ‘Here’s a photo of me at work’.

The comments made were as Tayla said ‘like sexual harassment in the work place’.

SO I ASK AGAIN, how sad does your life have to be?

Just because you feel bad, sad, jealous, or put quite simply you’re a dickhead; it doesn’t give you any right. ONLY until you can go out there and produce something better; maybe then you can make a small comment. Dare you to… you won't because you're gutless.

Oh and by the way here are some other women at work: All top of their chosen field. What are you top of?

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Clockwise: Top then L to R: Julie Bishop, Penny Wong and Ellyse Perry (just in case you didn't know). And Sam Kerr Below.

And shame on the AFLW for taking the photo down and giving in to the lowest of low. But I applaud them for reinstating it. Because as Sam Kerr said, 'The problem was not the photo.'

If you couldn’t see a problem with what happened then you’re a chauvinist, Neanderthal cave man. 

Here's one of them at work:

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What saddens most were the bitchy women who made derogatory comments. Only achievement here is playing right into the hands of men who think women have no place anywhere except maybe the home…seen and not heard. Quite simply put; the people who trolled were dickheads and really, their thoughts have nothing to add to anything except ignorance and hate. Two of the most shallow and useless things to subscribe to in life.

Here’s Tayla in action again,

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I’ll leave the final word to Tayla Harris; she said she felt ‘EMPOWERED’, because 

of the discussion that lead to all the overwhelming positive responses.

Find the thing that empowers you. Dare you to…

Changes we didn't realise had passed us by

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Changes that have passed us by and we didnt even notice!

From Tech to Fads.

Old Tech: all these items have been superseded by something better.....granted the smart phone is the beautiful (and sometimes much maligned) piece of tech that has been responsible for the demise of most of the items below:



Postage Stamps and Christmas Cards:


 Keys and an old-fashioned car locks:  

One Hour photos and photographic film:


Other pieces of tech killed off: The smart phone, humble laptop/pc, streaming and downloading, have all but killed off the following pieces of tech (some aren’t even that old):


Handkerchiefs and pocket squares. 

These items are really about the art of chivalry. When Chivalry died these were the first to go. 

They are not to be used by their owner but to be part of the act of giving to someone. The most chivalrous of these situations being tears. Other situations may involve spillages, stickiness, soiled clothes, and anything that amplifies the art of giving them away. This act never dates, should never be forgotten as it shows class, sophistication and gallantry which has not been replaced by anything more chivalrous or classy.

Matchbooks: In days gone by, when people smoked (a lot), and all the time at all the places we visited or partied at; like resuturants, nightclubs, and bars. You could always collect these.                      


Some mornings we struggled with smoke filled clothes and smoke infused hair only to be left struggling with a smokey smell on our pillow. Although part of a nasty habit, the humble matchbox sometimes was the only way we could tell where we’d been the night before! They usually turned-up in wallets, purses, bags, pockets etc, etc, etc… But alas now we have one less item to write phone numbers on now...although mobile phones have provided a much cleaner phone number recording device.      

Yellow and white pages: remember this great iconic ad, whose catch-phrase entered the Australian vernacular.  ‘Not Happy Jan!’  Having been big thick, hulking books that that you used to prop open doors, place TVs on top of and to lift-up computer screens; now the combined white and yellow pages are lucky to be an inch thick.


‘Let your fingers do the walking’ was the logo for the yellow page. Now your fingers still do the work but when using Google!

Remember the time when the only thing that was VIRAL was a disease or the cold/flu. 

It was a time when the Australian AIDs Council ad on TV and Billboards had everyone talking, and feeling distinctly horrified, terrified and worried about something normal antibiotics weren’t any use for. 

Then we discovered antivirals.

Now viral means we are exposed to a whole lot of new horrifying things. These terrifying new viral human billboards are not as worrying as the original auto-immune viruses but seem to hang around as resiliently as a bad flu or cold. However - it is important to note that antibiotics don’t work against them and unfortunately neither will antivirals. 

I think I prefer the cold and flu type virus. 

I’ve only scratched the surface. See what else you remember that has changed from not that long ago…Dare you to…   




Cutting to the chase on communication

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This week I was remembering all the management courses I attended with colleagues about 'improving communication' and how nothing really changed; aside from a day or two and then we’d be back to this….



It made me think of redesigning those courses to include some of these gems to cut through all the crap. Starting with the following:

REMEMBER we all have one mouth and two ears.  Open your mind and close your mouth, they work best this way.

The reason this is a fact is that silence is always preferred to bullshit. Otherwise this happens

OTHER people view life differently they may not be so understanding or frankly don’t care - you can’t change them because they may be missing something OR it might be YOU who's missing that filter that stops you from saying insensitive shit. 

That’s okay too, just don’t expect people to shower you in compliments and roses for stating the obvious because they are oblivious or can’t grasp facts. You can’t change these people either. Live with the knowledge you have. You can follow one of two options: 

Option ONE 

Option TWO 

Some days option two will appear the most appealing especially if you haven’t had a chance to reach the Zen-like state needed to repond appropriately for option one to truly work. WARNING: Some days BOTH options may be hazardous for others because you may not be able to respond nicely to idiots; no matter what your Zen state.

You may think you need more training but there are some things you just can’t ever become qualified to do.


Important rules to keep in mind when contemplating the human condition:


Manage other people’s expectations:

Manage your expectations:

Sometimes you may just plainly run out of patience with a person, who no matter what - causes you pain or time or both. This maybe the person who you can’t work out what makes them tick, or what they see as their purpose in life. You may have met one of these:

Leaving you to ask this sage old question:

There will be people who constantly annoy you let them know politely.

Maybe some days you’ll just have to take the higher road, comfortable in your knowledge that you can shine brightly no matter what.

Let yourself grow and bloom regardless of what is going on around you. Dare you to..

The Serena Dilemma: Saint or sinner

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The Serena Dilemma: Saint or sinner.

Is she a doyen of female rights or simply a precocious bad-mannered brat?

This is the question. There’s no denying she is a wonderful female athlete, philanthropist, strong woman and a stylish dresser.

But she also can be entitled, self-important and arrogant. This time I wonder if the blow-up wasn’t more about her own frustration at not playing her best, rather than anything to do with women’s rights.

Was it women’s rights or a frustrated smoke screen pieced together hastily after she started losing - not only the match but her cool. A good story to try and seem like Serena's bad behavior was for a worthwhile cause, championing for the end to institutional sexism. The right for a woman athlete who has a sports bra on to change her shirt at the change of ends in a tennis match!

No one will ever fully know, as it is only Serena who really knows herself. Was she being true to herself and honest with the world and the realm of women’s rights - or simply unable to cope with being blown off the court.

Let’s face it she’s done this before at the US Open. Remember the reprehensible 2009 Serena Williams outburst in the semi-final against Kim Clijsters. That time the umpire was a woman (no-where to pull the gender card) as was the lineswoman who called Serena for a foot-fault and Serena was accused of saying she’d kill her. 

As for the cartoon fracas: as I’ve said many times before people need to be able to laugh at themselves and GET over it. Political Correctness as a form of censorship is one of the most pernicious and dangerous aspects to our present society.

It was rightly asked later this week; WHY was that particular cartoon singled out as racist: Here’s how other cartoonists have drawn Serena….. these aren't particularly flattering either and no one sent their creators death threats?? 

When people wrote and posted obscene things about the cartoon that Mark Knight drew, I was brought back to the shootings on 7 January 2015 in which twelve people were killed at the offices of the French satirical magazine Charlie Hebdo. Here Islamic radicals shot up the offices of the magazine for posting what they saw as disrespectul cartoons about Islam and the prophet Mahomed. 

I bet the same people crying foul this week, were also appalled at the actions of the Muslim radicals back then (and rightly so). The attacks this week on Mark Knight, while nowhere as violent, were still born from the same lack of an ability to laugh at ourselves (remembering: cartoons aren’t actual pictures they are caricatures!). Also from a lack of understanding of what freedom of speech and freedom of expression really means, that is the ability to have acceptance for all opinions. We are the West - we champion free speech and this is the price we pay - diversification - acceptance of all views. 

Pause for a minute:

Let’s Remember: "Je suis Charlie" (French pronunciation: [ʒə sɥʃaʁli], French for "I am Charlie") is a slogan and logo created by French art director Joachim Roncin and adopted by supporters of freedom of speech and freedom of the press after twelve people were killed at the offices of French satirical magazine Charlie Hebdo.

Me thinks everyone is protesting too much; maybe for the wrong reasons. At the end of the day this is an amazing sportsperson regardless of sex, yet, it was also an example of entitlement, disrespect, bad manners, and abhorrent behavior. 

As the dust settled; players, umpires, sports commentators and some of the public were questioning whether in future do Serena’s games have to umpired to a different set of rules, not those everyone else plays by. Surely; no-one is bigger than the game.

As for the anaemic argument that men were never drawn that way, 

I beg to differ see the examples here of John McEnroe. 

Plus Nadal, Federer and Djokovic would never have gone off at an umpire so viciously and persistently. 

And down the other end - holding it altogether with grace and courage was Naomi Osaka:

*For anyone who doesn’t know this is Naomi Osaka. She is 20 years old and on the night of Saturday September 8th 2018 she became the US Open champion. She received no coaching, broke zero rackets, and treated the umpire and her opponent with respect throughout. Unfortunately nobody is talking about her.... *Source Jonathan Bennett


Canberra: Rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic.

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Canberra politics: rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. 

Alas!No longer do the initials of our two, not-so-illustrious leaders, stand for what exactly they stood for, the best indication of what we get from them. Although we still have BS (Bill Shorten: BullShit) but we have lost MT (Malcolm Turnbill: Empty).


Maybe Scott Morrison’s initials of SM do still leave the door open for a reflection on how dire Australian politics is at present. So will ScotMo give us a glimpse of some real S&M? But then again Australian politics has been dishing this out to us for years. That is S&M: Sadomasochism the giving or receiving of pleasure from acts involving the receipt or infliction of pain or humiliation.


The answer to one of life's enduring questions

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Some other wise words from a wise man...


A Salute to Female Lead Singers may they always rock on…

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A Salute to Female Lead Singers may they always rock on…  


May we find many more to add to the fantastic legacy.

It’s time to remember all the great female lead singers of kick-arse bands - women in Rock who really ROCKED!!

Let me take you back:

I’m going to spend a little more time on the ladies of the 60s, 70’s and 80’s because as pioneers they’ve gone through and given the most, to allow the women of today to fly and be free. (I wish they’d remember this a little more and not be so quick to become the latest pop-porn princess and use their talent and not their bodies to sell their music). Some of them have some serious talent. Maybe they just get a little lost behind the male-driven need to project an image only a smidgen above… slutty/sexy, no-talent, karaoke singers.

Let me take you back to a time when women were first daring to take steps to real emancipation and have control over their own sexual desires with the ‘pill’ being developed and dispensed. This was the real break-out decade. Women moved away from the straight-laced duty bound 50s… where women were neat, prim and proper - something like this.

THEN along came a group of women that turned the world on its head: and girl did we enjoy being tossed on our head and then some.


This decade was the birth of powerful women, and down with Suzi-home-maker there was more than one cardboard cut-out of woman-kind.

Janis Joplin:   Her alter-ego Pearl ruled and stood for everything new and abrasive about what women could be and do. For the first time they could openly, drink, F*@k and not give a damn. Unfortunately, as with many trail blazers fighting to beat a path through the overgrowth of prejudices, and haters it takes a toll and sadly Janis was taken from us too soon. 

Tina Turner: Probably best known for her courage, persistence and above all, talent. Fought against her internal demons, her violent husband and a world full of biases. Especially for a young, black woman with attitude and a voice that was made in heaven but could entertain the devil out of anyone. She triumphed over many setbacks to become the amazing woman who captured our hearts and minds.


http://amjaxon.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/Cher.jpgCHER: More recognition and respect has come this lady’s way the longer she’s survived. She’s proven she has a voice for the ages, so unique and powerful. She conquered such a misogynistic industry. She is that rare breed to hold onto her dignity and her femineity, while not only projecting but being unashamed of being a strong, smart woman and what she’s had to do to stay at the top.


The 1970s:

Nancy and Ann Wilson: from HEART.  

OMG, these ladies are always so under-rated and over looked. They were one of if not the first of their kind, that is a band formed and lead by women. The sisters wrote the songs, Nancy played lead guitar and then you had Ann’s amazing vocals. They were hard rock in the 70s with songs like Magic Man and Barracuda. If you haven’t heard the amazing guitar riff and vocals on Barracuda, you haven’t lived. So as Molly would say do yourself a favour.  As with most women we are survivors and adapt so when the 80s came around they were the band with big hair, and bigger songs with power ballads such as Alone, All I Wanna Do Is Make Love To You, and These Dreams.

Suzi Quatro: Again, often forgotten but she’s still rocking well into her 60s. She splashed onto our black and white screens all tough, leather-clad, with attitude and a voice that was as wicked as her bass playing. She led her band and toured as Suzi Quatro. There was no Suzi and the… just Suzi Quatro - a concept way before her time. (Later Suzi incarnations would see the flourishing of Suzi and the Banshees, Martha and the Motels). Suzi’s songs have stood the test of time, who doesn’t like a good Devil Gate Drive, Daytona Demon and The Wild One.>>>>>>>

Debbie Harry: The first to mix real sexuality with toughness,  thus to be seen by men as a strong woman to be respected and loved. Blondie started out more punk then anything. She was even an early pioneer with cross-over rap with the bands single Rapture, even Grand Master Flash approved of what the 'blonde skinny white girl was trying to do!' Blondie then crossed over into the 80's disco, rap, and rock she could do it all.http://amjaxon.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/Debbie-Harry.jpg


THE 1980s :

http://amjaxon.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/Chrissy.jpgChrissie Hynde:  One of the best lyricists of a generation. Tough, gritty and uncompromising and that’s just her personality, not to mention her attitude on stage. Her songs are lyrically strong and evoke a great sense of life. Listen to Hymn to Her, my favourite Night in my Veins and that’s even before we get to the sublime Pretenders classic, Brass in Pocket.


Pat Benatar:  The voice, the moves and she definitely could ‘walk that talk’, mamma could she sing your heart right out of your chest and then she’d ROCK.  Great set of wind pipes as well as pins, with a voice like velvet gravel. If you need an introduction listen to You Better Run, We Live for Love, Treat me Right and of course Hit Me with Your Best Shot.




Madonna:  Turned the world around again: probably more POP than rock, but she told us to ‘Don’t go for second best….’ At times we’ve both loved and hated Madge. She doesn’t play nice like everyone expects women to. She strives to win, taking no prisoners; you’ve got to give her that. Frequently there is no encore at her concerts and she is notoriously late to shows, but you still come away from the show buzzed and fulfilled….

http://amjaxon.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/Annie.jpgAnnie Lennox:  Enduring, humble and with an Oscar at 60,  more than accomplished. Rumour has it her androgynous appearance meant the terribly risk-adverse Americans needed to sight her Birth Certificate, so they could be absolutely sure she wasn’t a man, so when she appeared on MTV everything was as it seemed!! Really; no wonder they have the Donald as their president - they deserve him.

http://amjaxon.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/Chrissy-Amp.jpgChrissy Amphlett:  Now you’re talking; especially if you’re an Aussie. Tough, the inventor of unapologetic (forget the recent pop-porn-princesses: Chrissy strutted her stuff before you were even born). I once read a so appropriately titled article about Chrissy called ‘The not-so, subtle art of sleaze!’ When it was really tough to be an Aussie woman in the business, never mind fronting a band and daring to write your own songs…Chrissy dominated all. AND then she dared to wear a schoolgirl uniform… flipping the middle finger to everyone, flaunting most male fears and weaknesses while appealing to them anyway…

 The Go-Gos….  Not so much hard rock in fact the very opposite to Chrissy Amphlett, but they were different for their time, they wrote their own songs and played their own instruments, rising to the top of the Billboard album charts. Everyone remembers Our Lips are Sealed or as some people remember it Alex the Seal!!  

Joan Jett  could be said to be a Suzi Quatro clone, except she played six-string guitar, not bass. She is best known for her work as the frontwoman of her band, Joan Jett & the Blackhearts,  and for earlier founding and performing with the Runaways, which recorded and released the hit song "Cherry Bomb". The Blackhearts' version of the song I Love Rock 'n Roll was number-one on the Billboard Hot 100 for seven weeks in 1982. Joan's other notable hit songs include Bad Reputation, Crimson and Clover, Do You Wanna Touch Me (Oh Yeah), Light of Day, I Hate Myself for Loving You and Dirty Deeds. (Source of this paragraph: Wikipedia).




1990s More Statement women:  

Melissa Etheridge: I love this woman. So talented so brave and above all what a voice – all grit and gravel. But there’s even more she’s the consummate live performer. Don’t get me started on how good she is as a lyricist. Yes she’s talent personified, which is what it should be all about. Just go to her discology… too many class songs to mention, but in case you are wondering listen to: Bring me some water, Similar Features, Like the way I do. Occasionally, Yes I am, Secret and she also has an Oscar.



Sheryl Crow: Gets it done! Most of you will remember All I wanta do. I love, If it Makes you Happy and Soak up the Sun but there are sooo many others. Stunning looks and talent… she’s got it all.

Gwen Stefani: No Doubt… Tall, blonde talented, witty, clever lyrics more than just a girl, a force of nature.

Dolores O’Riordon: The range of her amazing unique voice that could sound like an angel or a zombie depending on which song you chose to listen to.  Sadly, she left us way too soon. One song that may be new to many people: listen to Ordinary Day.. soft yet powerful; a mother singing of her love to her daughter. I hope she’s at peace, happy and in a warm sun now.


Christine Aguilera:  warrants a mention just because she has such a powerful and a truly amazing voice. If it was a weapon it would be a Howitzer heavy artillery cannon.


I’m not going to mention too much about these ladies because they are still so active and in current news they dominate music gossip sites and social media. That being said, you can Google, tweet, Facebook, and Instagram etc, any of them to fully find out all you need to about every facet of their talent, lives and thoughts.

P!nk: What a live show! Yes, all in all a good gritty role model and takes no shit! 

Avril Lavigne: So much talented, potential and then struck down by Lyme disease and many other setbacks. But my choice for such precocious talent that it was almost why she was brought down by the weight of expectation. I keep hoping for a healthy comeback.



Amy Lee: With Evanescence. The big voice behind the best combination of heavy metal and opera we’ve not only seen but heard.


Deborah Conway: An immensely talented Aussie much more than the band Do-Re-Me; but who can forget Man Overboard and her powerful vocals and savvy for song writing. If you loved Man Overboard then you’ve got to listen to Adultery and really anything Deborah is a part of.

Suze DeMarchi: Front woman for Baby Animals: Early Warning need I say more…. Over-powering live performer.

Sarah McLeod: Of Super Jesus fame, singularly the closest quintessential lead songstress to Chrissy Amphlett and even better than Joan Jett. >>>



Now, all we really have is chart domination by a lot of pop princesses, with manufactured songs, sounds, and styles. While they no doubt have talent and a voice, they struggle to play an instrument or write their own songs.

There are those that do stand out and are worth a mention:

The closest we have to strut your stuff and walk the talk:

Florence Welsh  of Florence and the Machine: Now that’s a voice and a powerful stage presence, and she writes.


Lady Ga Ga: Speaking of total stage presence and overpowering talent, voice and ingenuity. Not to mention her crazy original costumes>>>>>>




Taylor Swift:  Whatever your thoughts, she has never put a foot wrong even traversing such dangerous territory as moving from country to contemporary and achieved this while keeping her integrity and showing her talent. Not the greatest of voices but up there for singer/songwriters of the last decade. 




Beyoncé : nothing more need to be said other than: elegant, hard-working, talented and dare I say it, real??

OVERALL: Others that deserve a mention: Cindy Lauper, Martha and the Motels, Sarah Mclaughlin, Fiona Apple, and Mia Dyson. 

Where are all the female lead-singers of rock and pop bands these days?

Woman are supposed to be more emancipated than ever, having more equality and options open to us than any other time in history. We have women’s basketball, football, AFL, Rugby Union great advances have been made but where are all the female lead singers?

We seem to have taken great strides backwards in this area.

Hayley Williams of Paramore gives me hope. It’s pop-rock but it’s ALRIGHT. Songs worth a listen are Ain’t It Fun and Still into You.  >>>>>>


There are other female lead singers and bands out there, but they aren’t being backed by record labels, radio stations and big music businesses as a whole.

Rena Lovelis of Hey Violet: well put together pop-punk, but they aren’t well known and aren’t well-funded by a big business machine. Why? Songs like I Can Feel It, rock! And Break My Heart isn’t that bad either. 



Can someone tell me why suddenly there is no room for female talent out in front of a ‘proper’ band? There must still be a deserving market for them. Am I that much of a dinosaur? Good Music is good music after all, is it not? Talent is talent so why can’t we have more women following in the footsteps of the fine ladies mentioned above.

WHY AREN’T we still seeing HOT talented, leather-clad, woman with attitude? ROCK CHICKs out front of major influential bands, playing a kick-arse guitar while singing songs they've written (not a song written by some committee or business) and can she have a voice that can blow out any Marshall speaker??

I live in hope this can be turned around and female-led bands can be brought back to life and the into the spotlight.