We have IQ and EQ why not Sexual Intelligence – SQ?

Observations of a Middle-Aged Dragon with a Tattoo: 

There’s IQ and now EQ. I’m wondering there must be SQ…. 

therefore Sexual Intelligence.

Let me explain:

Stephen Hawking sadly passed March 2018. There was much talk about his intelligence – IQ. IQ being the measure of a person’s intelligence.

He and Einstein were the great genius’ working and discovering much about the universe over the last century, both having IQs of 160, a perfect score being 162.


Now we have EQ:

The emotional intelligence quotient of a person. EQ reflects a person’s ability to empathize with others: identify, evaluate, control and express one’s own emotions. As well as to perceive and assess others’ emotions; use emotions to facilitate thinking, understand emotional meanings. Source Home page: transitionalsupport.com.au. A perfect score is 160. People high in EQ for example are: Nelson Mandela and Oprah Winfrey.

Oprah Winfrey: 

Other Examples: can be found if you click my source here:

Winston Churchill — Perhaps because of his own basket of insecurities, Churchill was an astute leader in harrowing times; he tapped into the emotions of his country and rose to the challenge, balancing cold calculations with emotional understanding.

Abraham Lincoln — Arguably the epitome of the emotionally intelligent President of the United States, Lincoln pressed on with monumental changes using his own internal compass, even when all his advisers pointed in other direction.

All this posturing got me thinking:

Just as there are Maths Genius’ with high IQs and Emotionally Strong Leaders, who show high EQ – why haven’t we, the human race, devised a way to measure someone’s Sexual Intelligence. 

Could you measure Sexual intelligence? Would you, could you rate it so a perfect score was 160 like the other measures?

That’s not necessarily measuring sexual prowess, or stamina. They most likely would be two characteristics of a person with an amazing – if not magical understanding of the needs of a woman or a man – and have the capacity to deliver this regularly. Would Sexual Intelligence be called SQ? Would a person with high SQ be a Sexual Genius? Why not?

Would SQ characteristics be measured by:     






Skill?  How would this be measured? The mind boggles, but it would be fun designing and testing such a scale and then a test to deliver a score. Would there be a practical element????


Why can’t we celebrate openly a great, lover? A person who is a Sexual Genius’. People who just know how to make love like no other. Just as there won’t be another Nelson Mandala or Einstein, in a generation, is there a sexual genius out there who we are missing out on learning from?

Was Casanova one or Catherine the Great? Not forgetting Cleopatra and Marc Antony. Reputation certainly precedes all of these.

The closest I’ve come in my research is a reference made to Erotic Intelligence…

But I ask do we have to go that hard core, plus there already is an EQ. So why not have Erotic knowledge or proclivity as a characteristic of overall Sexual Genius… Maybe we should start a movement.

A lady who seems to be on to something is Esther Perel with her book: Mating In Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. In a 2013 interview with the Huffington post her words caught my eye on what SQ would in essence be about: “When I work with sexuality in couples, I rarely work on helping them have sex. You can have sex and feel nothing. Women have done this for centuries. I work on the poetics of sex. I work on how they connect to their own erotic self. Basically, I work at how they beat back deadness, which is the prime reason for affairs.”

Marc and Cleo  

The article makes for very interesting reading: See this Huffington Post article

Either way enjoy your contemplation of this subject, it’s a great conundrum to be faced with, especially if your research means you’re investigating subjects who look like these guys:


He could dust his sand off on my rug any time. 


There are many possibilities…. dare you to…