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The cost of the fun police… Individuality, comedy and laughter.

Observations of a Middle-Aged Dragon with a Tattoo:

The cost of the fun police… Individuality, comedy and laughter.

Bring back Mae West: I believe in censorship. After all, I made a fortune out of it.

Don’t get me wrong I think minimizing racism, misogyny and bullying is very good. But we are becoming so sensitive that we can’t seem to laugh at ourselves. With social platforms beaming peoples’ quips and thoughts instantaneously to sooo many people rather than this allowing people to experience all forms of opinions and become more broadminded. Instead we have seen the general populous become so sensitive and seemingly always on the look out to be offended about ANY thing. No longer can we laugh at ourselves or be a little forgiving to a scathing wit.


If Dorothy Parker was around now she would have been sued out of town and sacked from many jobs. Her comment about Katherine Hepburn in her early acting days; like “She runs the gamut of emotions from A to B,” got published and were applauded and considered worthwhile. Dorothy Parker was an American writer and poet best known for her caustic wit, wisecracks, and sharp eye for 20th century urban foibles.

Did Katherine Hepburn shrink and cower under the weight of such observations, did she sue Parker? Did she ask for Parker’s head and get her sacked? NO!! Instead she kept working at her craft to become the most Oscar awarded female actress EVER….

Even more best actress Oscar awards wins than the amazing Meryl Streep and despite what Donald Trump says – I’m with Robert De Niro who said at the Tony’s 2018: ‘Fuck Trump’ and got a standing ovation.

Despite what President Trump says Meryl’s an exceedingly talented actress, easily in the top 3 of the best Actress’ of our time. (Katherine Hepburn has 4, Meryl only 2 best actress awards and 1 for best supporting actress).


Give Rosanne a second chance (is that a 50th chance..).

I think her rendition of the Star Spangled Banner at a US baseball game many years ago (1990), see the sadness here! It was more of a crime, than what she said on twitter. WAS the tweet really that bad…. The singing yes…. The tweet is something that should have been slapped down but let’s have a discussion about it and not summarily strike it down to be silenced and take away her livelihood (although I suspect she’s still got a few mil lying around). Hitler and Stalin used censorship, bullying and terror to stop freedom of speech…. Not nice guys.


AND YES surprise, surprise, I can,… NOT like Mr Trump and YES I still can also think that political correctness has run amok. People are less likely to have diverse opinions for fear that having them may offend. But aren’t we all individuals and isn’t it because of individuality that we have such amazing skills allowing us to innovate and create. If we all thought alike no innovation and creativity would exist….. Point: The Rosanne show, for many years was the only show on TV that reflected the struggles of the little people (there have been many of types of these shows). People actually watched and loved Rosanne for her wit, her scathing sarcasm and honesty about American life when you don’t have a squillion dollars. Couldn’t get that from the Cosby Show and I’m not being racist I’m looking at content and reality. But take Good Times now that was a show way ahead of its time. Not sugar-coating reality.


I’ve got far tooooooo serious,

Bringing back the whimsy……Remembering the timeless MAE WEST:

The real beauty of Mae West: Definitely a woman before her time and the juice to prove it. How would political correctness deal with her today?

 Source: George Tiffin: All the Best Lines: An informal history of the movies in quotes, notes and anecdotes.

Mae West: 1893-1980. She was a child actor she found her way to vaudeville. In 1926 at the age of 33 she wrote, directed and starred in the Broadway play Sex.

Arrested on charges of obscenity, she served ten days in jail telling reporters she had worn silk underwear throughout her stay. At the age of 38 she signed a contract with Paramont. During her first film, Night After Night (1932), she insisted on rewriting many of her scenes, prompting her co-star George Raft to declare: ‘she stole everything but the cameras.’

Although a supporter of women’s liberation, she never declared herself a feminist and remained as famous for her sexual innuendo in real life as on screen. 

Many of her quotes and quips have stood the test of time.

When women go wrong, men go right after them.

When caught between two evils I generally pick the one I’ve never tried before.

When I’m good, I’m very good. But when I’m bad, I’m better.

Good girls go to heaven. Bad girls go everywhere else.

I used to be Snow White, but I drifted.

Ten men waiting for me at the door? Send one of them home, I’m tired.

A hard man is good to find.

I believe in censorship. After all, I made a fortune out of it.

I only like two kinds of men: domestic and foreign.

To err is human, but it feels divine.

Is that a gun in your pocket or are you must glad to see me?

Marriage is a great institution, but I’m not ready for an institution yet.

Sex is emotion in motion… love is what you make it and who you make it with.

Those who are easily shocked should be shocked more often.

I always save one boyfriend for a rainy day… ad another in case it doesn’t rain.

LONG LIVE the spirit of MAE!!!!

Bring some of that spirit back to your life. Dare you to...


There’s IQ and now EQ. I’m wondering there must be SQ…. therefore Sexual Intelligence.

Observations of a Middle-Aged Dragon with a Tattoo: 

There’s IQ and now EQ. I’m wondering there must be SQ…. 

therefore Sexual Intelligence.

Let me explain:

Stephen Hawking sadly passed away not that long ago. There was much talk about his intelligence – IQ. IQ being the measure of a person’s intelligence.

He and Einstein were the great genius’ over the last century, both having IQs of 160, a perfect score being 162.


Now we have EQ:

The emotional intelligence quotient of a person. EQ reflects a person’s ability to empathize with others: identify, evaluate, control and express one’s own emotions. As well as to perceive and assess others’ emotions; use emotions to facilitate thinking, understand emotional meanings. Source Home page: A perfect score is 160. People high in EQ for example are: Nelson Mandela and Oprah Winfrey.

Oprah Winfrey: 

Other Examples: can be found if you click my source here:

Winston Churchill — Perhaps because of his own basket of insecurities, Churchill was an astute leader in harrowing times; he tapped into the emotions of his country and rose to the challenge, balancing cold calculations with emotional understanding.

Abraham Lincoln — Arguably the epitome of the emotionally intelligent President of the United States, Lincoln pressed on with monumental changes using his own internal compass, even when all his advisers pointed in other direction.

All this posturing got me thinking:

Just as there are Maths Genius’ with high IQs and Emotionally Strong Leaders, who show high EQ - why haven’t we, the human race, devised a way to measure someone’s Sexual Intelligence. 

Could you measure Sexual intelligence? Would you, could you rate it so a perfect score was 160 like the other measures?

That’s not necessarily measuring sexual prowess, or stamina. They most likely would be two characteristics of a person with an amazing – if not magical understanding of the needs of a woman or a man – and have the capacity to deliver this regularly. Would Sexual Intelligence be called SQ? Would a person with high SQ be a Sexual Genius? Why not?

Would SQ characteristics be measured by:     






Skill-How would this be measured? The mind boggles, but it would be fun designing and testing such a scale and then a test to deliver a score. Would there be a practical element????


Why can’t we celebrate openly a great, lover? A person who is a Sexual Genius’. People who just know how to make love like no other. Just as there won’t be another Nelson Mandala or Einstein, in a generation, is there a sexual genius out there who we are missing out on learning from?

Was Casanova one or Catherine the Great? Not forgetting Cleopatra and Marc Antony. Reputation certainly precedes all of these.

The closest I’ve come in my research is a reference made to Erotic Intelligence…

But I ask do we have to go that hard core, plus there already is an EQ. So why not have Erotic knowledge or proclivity as a characteristic of overall Sexual Genius… Maybe we should start a movement.

A lady who seems to be on to something is Esther Perel with her book: Mating In Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. In a 2013 interview with the Huffington post her words caught my eye on what SQ would in essence be about: “When I work with sexuality in couples, I rarely work on helping them have sex. You can have sex and feel nothing. Women have done this for centuries. I work on the poetics of sex. I work on how they connect to their own erotic self. Basically, I work at how they beat back deadness, which is the prime reason for affairs.”

Marc and Cleo  

The article makes for very interesting reading: See this Huffington Post article

Either way enjoy your contemplation of this subject, it’s a great conundrum to be faced with, especially if your research means you’re investigating subjects who look like these guys:


He could dust his sand off on my rug any time. 


There are many possibilities…. dare you to...

As Man-Flu season descends upon us....

Observations of a Middle-Aged Dragon with a Tattoo:

As Man-Flu season descends upon us....


There maybe another way....

My Nonna used to say if you feel a cold or flu coming on just drink a bottle of Marsala that night, in the morning you'll wake up and you won't be worried about the cold or flu.

Dare you to...